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Relationship Counseling in NYC and San Diego

Online Across NY, NJ, and CA

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You’re tired of feeling misunderstood and disconnected.

It’s exhausting. You struggle to sleep, can’t seem to focus, and feel disconnected from the world around you. Your relationship is always on your mind—consuming your thoughts—and you find yourself asking, “Why am I so bad at this?” or “What’s wrong with me?” The weight of it all leaves you feeling anxious, questioning your worth, and trapped in a cycle of self-doubt. At times, your body feels heavy and tense, like the stress is taking over. Other moments, you just feel numb, worn out, and defeated.

It’s harder to focus at work, and you’re feeling more burnt out than usual. You find yourself pulling away from friends, unable to muster the energy or enthusiasm to spend time with them. It’s not just that you’re sad—it’s the embarrassment, too, the feeling that you’re not enough, and the fear that others will see it. Your family checks in, but you keep it to yourself, hoping to protect their view of your partner and spare them from worrying about you. Maybe you’ve tried distracting yourself before, telling yourself that everything will be fine, but now, nothing seems to help.

You know your partner isn’t ready to try counseling, but deep down, you feel that you need help. You’re ready for something to change, to understand how to navigate the challenges you’re facing, and to find a way forward—even if it means starting the journey on your own.

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Sound like you?

Walking on eggshells trying to avoid the argument that you know you’ve been through countless times.

Trying to express your anger, resentment, and sadness but feeling like it only makes things worse and leaves you feeling disappointed and unheard.

Experiencing a flurry of thoughts and feelings pulling you in so many directions, finding yourself more confused than ever.

Asking yourself, “Is it me, them, or the relationship?”

Here’s what we’ll do together

Relationship counseling can help you show up as your best self in your relationships.

Therapy with me will give you a safe space to make changes individually that will impact your relationship and your life in a positive way.

 You’ll have the freedom to explore your feelings, identify your needs, and set boundaries without worrying about your partner’s reaction. You’ll also be able to express emotions like anger and sadness openly, without fear of making things worse.

 You’ll have the support you need to navigate through this with confidence.

  • Together we will begin to identify and understand the negative patterns in your relationship and how you get stuck in them.  We will explore your role in conflict including your triggers and where they came from. We will do this in a validating and non-judgemental way because I know you are doing your best and doing this work is hard.

  • We will work together to help you tune into yourself and get clear on what you really feel, think, and what your body is telling you.  If you’re scared to start this process, know that it’s normal that some defenses come up here and that we will go at your pace.

    Our coping mechanisms are strong and usually created at an earlier time that worked for us and that context.  However, as we become adults and live in a different context, a new coping mechanism is usually needed.  We will figure out the right strategies for you so you can manage tough feelings, thoughts, and overwhelm.

  • Communication can become difficult when our emotions are running high.  Even if you think you know what you want to say, it can be hard to put it into the right words.  We will work together to help you find the right words to be clear and create more understanding and connection with those you are working to communicate better with.

  • While your relationship that brought you into therapy is the main focus, we will also look at the other support networks in your life and how to connect or reconnect with friends and family that you may have turned further from during this stressful time.

What we’ll work on

Imagine a life where…

  • Your relationship feels clearer and less overwhelming.

  • You handle tough moments with more confidence and calm.

  • You feel more in tune with your emotions instead of afraid of them.

  • Tension fades, leaving you feeling relaxed at home and in your body.

  • You feel more secure in yourself and your relationships, reconnecting with who you truly are.

At the end of the day, I want you to know:

You can unlock and happier and healthier you.

Therapy after a break up

Sometimes relationships don’t go the way you had hoped.

If you're contemplating the end of a relationship or already finding your way through its aftermath, I’m here to help. I know how uniquely challenging and overwhelming this time can be.

Change is possible.

Change is possible.

Questions?

FAQs

  • Yes - in individual therapy, we will focus on what is in your control to change. By working on your part of the negative pattern of interacting, we can make changes to help you create a more positive way of interacting with your partner.

  • Individual therapy is a private space for you to understand and explore your feelings and thoughts. It’s a great way to find clarity in yourself and have the opportunity to learn the best way to bring it to your partner.

  • Many times one partner is not ready to begin couples therapy or you are in need of a space to figure out what you want first. We will continue to assess at what point couples therapy would be more effective.

  • No - individual therapy is a great place to explore past relationships and what you are looking for in a future relationship. It’s also a great place to explore non-romantic relationships such as parents, siblings, and friends. Understanding yourself better will help any relationship you choose to have, thrive. You are welcome regardless of your relationship status.

  • Yes - we will work through the loss and greiving process together. Understanding how the relationship came to an end can be helpful in understanding your individual patterns and getting clear about what you want in a future relationship.

  • I offer couples therapy for a limited number of clients. With 10 years experience, I have advanced training in couples therapy specifically utilizing Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).

    Learn more about couples therapy here.