go beyond traditional talk therapy.
EMDR Therapy in NYC and San Diego
Online Across NY, NJ, and CA
You’ve tried everything you can think of to feel better, but nothing’s sticking.
Maybe you’ve tried therapy before, but you’re still feeling stuck. The same emotions, patterns, or thoughts keep coming up, no matter how hard you’ve worked to move past them. Like you’re spinning your wheels, wondering if things can really change.
you’re still feeling…
Emotionally triggered by things you wish didn’t bother you so much.
Frustrated the past keeps creeping into your present, affecting your relationships, your sense of self, or how you show up in the world.
Exhausted from trying so hard and still not finding the relief you need.
EMDR therapy can help you process old experiences to create space for new possibilities.
EMDR is an evidence-based method that can help by addressing the root of the pain - whether it’s old wounds, unresolved trauma, or deeply ingrained patterns. EMDR helps you reprocess the past so it no longer feels like it’s holding you back. It’s a powerful approach that works when traditional methods haven’t quite clicked.
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EMDR doesn’t require you to talk in detail about painful past experiences. Instead, you’ll tune into a memory, thought, or feeling and notice how it shows up in your body while using bilateral stimulation, like rapid eye movements or tapping.
With regular check-ins, EMDR helps you keep one foot in the present and one foot in the past, preventing you from becoming too overwhelmed as you reprocess difficult memories.
This process allows you to gain distance from painful experiences. While you won’t forget what happened, the emotions and thoughts tied to those memories will become less distressing. The memories will lose their power and triggers from the past won’t carry the same weight, giving you more control over your emotions and reactions.
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History and Planning: Together, we’ll explore your past and understand how it might be affecting your present. We’ll figure out which experiences are causing the most distress and focus on addressing those.
Resourcing: This is about finding and practicing ways to feel grounded and calm, helping you manage any discomfort that comes up during the process.
Reprocessing: During this step, you’ll reflect on the tough experiences while engaging in bilateral stimulation (like eye movements or tapping) to help reprocess those memories and reduce their impact.
Consolidating: In this final step, we’ll reinforce the new, positive insights and feelings you've gained. Bilateral stimulation is used to help make these positive shifts feel stronger and more lasting, so you can carry them with you into the future and respond more calmly to similar situations.
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EMDR can help you address painful experiences from your past that are still impacting you today. These experiences may feel like they’ve been lingering, influencing your emotions, relationships, and how you navigate the world.
These experiences might include:
Difficulty with emotional regulation in relationships
Growing up in a chaotic or emotionally charged environment
Growing up feeling emotionally disconnected from parents
Parental divorce
Experiences of bullying or feeling different growing up
Consistently feeling alone, unheard, misunderstood, or rejected
Hurtful past romantic relationships
Loss of a significant relationship (parent, friend, pet)
Struggles with self-esteem
At the end of the day, I want you to know:
Whatever it is that you’re experiencing, you don’t have to face it alone. Healing is possible, and I’m here to support you every step of the way.
Is EMDR right for you?
EMDR is a good fit for you if you…
Have experienced difficulties in your childhood or past that still affect your emotions and relationships today.
Are tired of carrying the weight of past pain and want to finally let go.
Are struggling with anxiety, trauma, or emotional triggers that seem hard to overcome.
Tried traditional therapy but still feel overwhelmed by certain memories or feelings.
Want to understand the root causes of emotional struggles without rehashing the past in detail.
What we’ll work on
With EMDR, you can…
Feel lighter by healing old wounds that have been weighing you down.
Break free from old patterns and start responding to life with more calm and confidence.
Shift from feeling overwhelmed by your emotions to navigating them with more control.
Create space for new, positive thoughts and feelings.
You are not defined by your past.
You are not defined by your past.
Questions?
FAQs
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Yes - EMDR therapy is not traditional talk therapy. While you are welcome to share as much or as little as you'd like, only a snapshot of your experience is needed once reprocessing begins. EMDR beleives that these experiences get stored in the body so we will focus on how your body and mind can heal.
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EMDR is shown to be effective for trauma, anxiety, depression, and more. While your past painful experiences may not feel "big enough" to be called trauma they can still have a negative impact on your life now and you can benefit from reprocessing and healing from them.
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The process of EMDR therapy is deeply personal. We will consistently communicate about how the process is going and reassess as needed.
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You are awake during every phase of EMDR therapy. It is not hypnosis and does not include a trance-like state. You are in control of the process at all times.
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It can be difficult. The emotions associated with painful experiences can feel overwhelming and intense sometimes. However, since it is not talk therapy, it is a great option for people who don’t want to discuss their experiences in detail. Before we begin reprocessing, we’ll spend time learning coping and grounding skills to help you manage emotions and return to a state of calm both in and out of session.