helping you understand relationships, anxiety, and trauma
EMDR and Relationship Therapy
in New York City, San Diego, and Sarasota
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When dating feels like a maze, anxiety slowly starts to take over everything else too. Your mind gets stuck on repeat; replaying conversations, wondering what you said wrong, or imagining what might happen next.
You find yourself distracted at work, unable to focus, because your brain is still running through the same scenarios. Even when you’re with friends, you can’t shake the feeling that something is off.
The more this cycle goes on, the more you start doubting yourself. You begin to question if you’re doing something wrong, or if you’ll ever feel confident again. Over time, it chips away at who you are, leaving you feeling lost, unsure, and disconnected from yourself. You start to wonder if you’ll ever trust yourself again.
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It feels like you're speaking different languages. No matter how hard you try, the same arguments keep coming back. Misunderstandings pile up, leaving you both feeling hurt, disconnected, or even questioning where things went wrong. The frustration of not being able to communicate clearly can leave you anxious and second-guessing yourself, as you wonder if this cycle will ever change.
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Do you ever wonder if there’s something deeper at play? Something from your past that’s making everything feel even more overwhelming right now. Sometimes, the emotions you're experiencing aren’t just about what’s happening in the moment; they’re echoes of past pain you thought you left behind. When those old wounds resurface, it’s like being hit by a wave of feelings you don’t know how to control. It can feel impossible to stay calm or truly connected, as everything from your past rushes back, clouding your ability to find peace in the present.
Life isn’t falling apart but you still feel stuck.
You’ve been trying to figure it out. Why dating feels so complicated, why conflict triggers you so intensely, why your partner’s withdrawal or anger makes you anxious, and why you shut down when love feels unstable or ends.
On the surface, you might look calm, capable, and together. But underneath, there’s a steady hum of unease that never quite turns off. It shows up in moments you’d expect, like dating and relationships and in the moments you wouldn’t, when you’re just trying to be alone with yourself… like a nervous system that never fully settles.
This isn’t just a feeling. It’s a signal that the way you’ve been coping isn’t working anymore. And you’re ready for something different - real change that helps you feel more grounded, calmer in connection, and more able to trust yourself in relationships.
Sound like you?
Dating feels overwhelming … every message, every date, every choice feels loaded with uncertainty.
In relationships, even small disagreements make your body tense and your mind spiral into fear. You’re left not knowing what to do or how to make it better.
Anxiety shows up as constant restlessness, a racing mind, and the feeling that you’re always waiting for something to go wrong.
After a breakup, the loss keeps echoing in your body, and you feel like you can’t move on.
Old coping patterns from the past keep repeating making everything feel more out of control and harder than you know it could be.
Hi, I’m kim, a licensed therapist with 10 years experience.
I help anxious adults navigate dating, relationships, attachment patterns, and trauma.
You deserve a different experience of love. One that feels calmer, clearer, and more secure. If you find yourself caught in the same cycles, triggered by conflict or distance, or carrying old pain into your relationships, you don’t have to navigate it alone.
In therapy, we’ll identify what’s driving your anxiety, learn healthier ways to communicate during conflict, and work through old patterns that keep repeating. The goal is to help you feel more present, more confident, and more capable of creating the relationships you truly want.
How I can help
I specialize in therapy for lasting change.
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In a safe, confidential space, you’ll have the opportunity to share and explore your feelings about your current or potential relationship. Together, we’ll navigate overwhelming emotions and help you gain clarity on your true needs. We’ll identify the patterns you get stuck in, how to make the changes that are in your control, and explore if your past experiences may be affecting these patterns. This understanding will empower you to communicate more effectively and deepen your connections. Learn more.
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Past painful experiences often shape our present lives in ways we may not immediately recognize, especially when rooted in attachment. Experiences from childhood, like a parent’s divorce, angry or anxious caregivers, not having emotional needs met, bullying, or feeling different as a child, can leave lasting emotional imprints. Experiences from past romantic relationships can also resurface in new relationships, creating familiar patterns or triggers that get in the way. These experiences can impact how you connect, trust, and feel in your relationships today.
In therapy, we’ll gently follow the thread of these experiences to uncover their impact, and with tools like EMDR, we can address and heal the roots of these challenging experiences. Learn more.
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EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is an effective way to heal from unresolved painful experiences or trauma that may be affecting your relationships and life today. In our sessions, you’ll reprocess those memories, helping you manage triggers and emotions more easily in the present. This approach can give you the chance to move forward in a positive way. Learn more.
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Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps you make sense of your emotions and respond to them in healthier, more constructive ways. If you're feeling stuck in frustrating patterns, whether within yourself or in your relationships, EFT can help you break free. In our sessions, we'll gently explore the emotional experiences shaping your reactions today, many of which may be connected to past experiences. Together, we'll work toward greater clarity, confidence, and emotional balance so you can experience stronger, more meaningful relationships and a deeper sense of inner peace. Learn more.
Therapy that comes to you.
Online therapy in NY, NJ, FL, & CA.
Online therapy offers a convenient and comfortable way to start your healing journey from home. We’ll take the time to build a connection and set a pace that feels right for you. All you need is an internet connection and a device to begin feeling more grounded, confident, and in control. Let’s take this important step together.
How it works
Life is stressful enough right now. Let me make this part as easy as possible.
Click this link to reach out and schedule a free, confidential consultation.
You deserve to feel better.
You deserve to feel better.