Relationship counseling & EMDR Therapy in Nyc and San Diego
Break free from stuck patterns and transform your life.
Life doesn’t look or feel the way you wish it did.
Your relationships feel strained—arguments, miscommunication, or emotional distance seem to create more frustration than connection. Anxiety is creeping in, leaving you second-guessing yourself and struggling to find peace. And deep down, you can’t shake the feeling that something from your past, maybe childhood experiences or attachment wounds, is still shaping how you show up in your life today.
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It feels like you're speaking different languages—no matter how hard you try, the same arguments keep coming back. Misunderstandings pile up, leaving you both feeling hurt, disconnected, or even questioning where things went wrong. The frustration of not being able to communicate clearly can leave you anxious and second-guessing yourself, as you wonder if this cycle will ever change.
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When the same issues keep cropping up in your relationship, anxiety can slowly start to take over every part of your life. You find yourself distracted at work, unable to focus, as your mind replays old arguments or worries about what might happen next. Even when you're with friends, you can’t shake the feeling that something is off. You’re anxious about how they see you, or maybe even whether they notice you’re not really present. Your heart races, your stomach knots, and the stress from your relationship begins to spill into everything.
The more this cycle goes on, the more you start doubting yourself, questioning if you’re doing something wrong or if things will ever get better. Over time, it chips away at your sense of self, leaving you feeling lost and unsure of who you really are. You start to wonder if you’ll ever feel confident again trust yourself.
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All this stress might leave you wondering if there’s something deeper at play—something from your past that’s making everything feel even more overwhelming right now. Sometimes, the emotions you're experiencing aren’t just about what’s happening in the moment; they’re echoes of past pain you thought you left behind. When those old wounds resurface, it’s like being hit by a wave of feelings you don’t know how to control. It can feel impossible to stay calm or truly connected, as everything from your past rushes back, clouding your ability to find peace in the present.
Sound like you?
Feeling drained by repeated conflicts and unresolved issues in your relationship, leaving you unsure if things will ever improve.
Overwhelmed by emotions - struggling to stay grounded, not knowing what to say, shutting down, or saying things you later regret.
Stuck in patterns that may have once helped but now no longer do, making it hard to move forward.
Wishing you could feel more confident in yourself and create deeper, more fulfilling connections with others.
I’m kim.
I believe things can be better than the way they are today.
As a relationship therapist, I help you navigate relationships with more clarity, break free from overwhelm and anxiety, and heal from past pain.
If you're looking for more—more peace, more connection, more fulfillment—I’m here to support you. My goal is to help you gain clarity, feel better emotionally, improve how you communicate, and heal past hurts that hold you back. Together, we’ll break free from old patterns and create the positive changes you want in your life.
How I can help
I specialize in therapy for lasting change.
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In a safe, confidential space, you’ll have the opportunity to share and explore your feelings about your relationship. Together, we’ll navigate overwhelming emotions and help you gain clarity on your true needs. We’ll identify the patterns your relationship gets stuck in, how to make the changes you can, and explore if your past experiences may be affecting these patterns. This understanding will empower you to communicate more effectively and deepen your connection with your partner. Learn more.
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Past painful experiences often shape our present lives in ways we may not immediately recognize, especially when rooted in attachment trauma. Experiences like a parent’s divorce, an angry or anxious caregiver, not having emotional needs met, bullying, or feeling different as a child can leave lasting emotional imprints. These early wounds can create patterns or triggers that echo into adulthood. In therapy, we’ll gently follow the thread of these experiences to uncover their impact, and with tools like EMDR, we can address and heal the roots of these challenging experiences. Learn more.
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EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is an effective way to heal from unresolved painful experiences or trauma that may be affecting your relationships and life today. In our sessions, you’ll reprocess those memories, helping you manage triggers and emotions more easily in the present. This approach can give you the chance to move forward in a positive way. Learn more.
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Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps you make sense of your emotions and respond to them in healthier, more constructive ways. If you're feeling stuck in frustrating patterns, whether within yourself or in your relationships, EFT can help you break free. In our sessions, we'll gently explore the emotional experiences shaping your reactions today, many of which may be connected to past experiences. Together, we'll work toward greater clarity, confidence, and emotional balance so you can experience stronger, more meaningful relationships and a deeper sense of inner peace. Learn more.
Online therapy in NY, NJ, & CA
Therapy that comes to you.
Online therapy offers a convenient and comfortable way to start your healing journey from home. We’ll take the time to build a connection and set a pace that feels right for you. All you need is an internet connection and a device—whether it’s a laptop, phone, or tablet—to begin feeling more grounded, confident, and in control. Let’s take this important step together.
How it works
Life is stressful enough right now. Let me make this part as easy as possible.
Click this link to reach out and schedule a free, confidential consultation.